Relationships should be about happiness and love. You should wake up every day feeling incredibly lucky – and you should feel like you can do anything with your partner. A good relationship leads to positive mental well-being, but the opposite can be said of a bad one. Being stuck in a bad relationship will cause a negative impact on your mental health, so here are some worrying signs that things might not be going as well as you thought.
You Feel Stressed When Planning To See Them
Nobody in a healthy relationship feels stressed when they plan on seeing their partner. If you don’t live together, then you can often feel a sense of anxiety or stress building when you’re about to go on a date or stay over. It can happen because seeing them means you miss out on certain things that are important to you, or perhaps you always get into little arguments. Whatever causes these feelings, they’re not good. You should feel relaxed and excited to be with your partner, not the other way around.
You’re Constantly Doubting Things Internally
Does your inner monologue go crazy when you’re on your own? You spend your days walking around the house, talking to yourself and going over the same things again and again. Does your partner really love you? Do they actually find you attractive? You’re filled with so much self-doubt, which plagues your mental health. Again, you shouldn’t feel like this in a relationship, no matter how naturally self-conscious you are. Most people will look in the mirror and pick out flaws in their appearance or personality – but you shouldn’t question if your partner dislikes you. They should make it obvious, and if you’re constantly doubting yourself, then they’re not doing enough to make you feel valued.
You Run Yourself Ragged For Them
Relationships should be a two-way street where you both contribute and help one another. Do you constantly feel worn down and tired because you’re doing everything for your partner? That’s…not a good sign. You shouldn’t be running yourself ragged and they shouldn’t let you do that. Exhaustion isn’t a sign of a healthy relationship, so perhaps some couples therapy can help you voice your concerns in a safe space. It could be that your partner is unaware of how physically and mentally drained you are. Maybe they assume you want to do so much for them and feel bad if they ask you not to do something. It sounds crazy, but miscommunications happen all the time, and therapy may help. If you can reach a place where you no longer overwork yourself for the good of the relationship, then things could take a positive turn.
What happens if you spot any of these signs in your relationship? Other than experiencing a downturn in your mental health, you should use these signs as a reason to take action. Talk to your partner and re-assess your relationship. It could be better for your overall mental well-being if you called things off – especially if your partner doesn’t listen to your concerns or fails to change for the better.
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